FAQ – ‘What to do after the affair?
‘After the Affair’ infidelity series
Common questions
It’s never too late! Many readers discover the series years after the initial betrayal and find it incredibly helpful. Book 3 is specifically designed for long-term healing (1+ years after discovery) and addresses challenges that emerge over time. The workbook is valuable at any stage. Even if you’ve been dealing with this for years, you’ll find new insights, validation, and strategies for moving forward.
While Books 1-3 provide information, guidance, and strategies, Book 4 is a hands-on workbook with exercises, prompts, and activities. It helps you actively process your emotions, challenge negative thoughts, and practice new skills. Think of Books 1-3 as your guides and Book 4 as your practice space. The workbook can be used alongside any of the other books or as a standalone resource.
No! The series is designed for everyone affected by infidelity, whether you choose to stay, leave, or are still deciding. The books provide guidance for both rebuilding your current relationship and moving forward independently. Book 2 specifically addresses the “stay or go” decision, and Book 3 includes extensive guidance on dating and opening your heart again after betrayal.
The 7 Types Framework recognizes that not all affairs are the same. These types include emotional affairs, physical affairs, online affairs, opportunistic affairs, serial affairs, exit affairs, and more. Each type has distinct motivations, patterns, and recovery needs. The answer to the question, “What to do after an affair?” varies depending on the type involved. Understanding which type you are dealing with can help you choose the most effective strategies for your situation. This framework is explained in Book 1 and is referenced throughout the series.
You can absolutely start with just one book based on where you are in your healing journey. However, the series is designed to work together as a comprehensive system. Book 1 is ideal if you’ve recently discovered the affair (0-6 months). Book 2 helps with the next phase (6-12 months). Book 3 is for long-term healing (1+ years). Book 4 (the workbook) can be used at any stage. Many readers find the most value in getting the complete series so they have resources for every stage ahead.
Yes, many people purchase the series as a gift for loved ones dealing with infidelity. However, be sensitive to timing and the person’s readiness. Some people appreciate the gesture immediately, while others may need time before they’re ready to engage with recovery resources. Consider including a thoughtful note letting them know you’re there for them and that the books are available whenever they’re ready.
The books are designed to complement professional therapy, not replace it. They provide comprehensive information, strategies, and support that you can access anytime. However, if you’re struggling with severe depression, anxiety, PTSD symptoms, or thoughts of self-harm, please seek professional help. Many therapists recommend these books to their clients as supplementary resources.
While the series is primarily written for the betrayed partner, many unfaithful partners find the books helpful for understanding their partner’s experience and the recovery process. The books can facilitate important conversations and provide a shared framework for healing. However, partners who had the affair may also benefit from resources specifically designed for them.
Yes! The complete series is available in multiple formats including paperback, Kindle/ebook & Audiobooks and on various platforms
There’s no universal timeline for healing from infidelity. The books acknowledge this by covering different stages: the first 6 months (Book 1), months 6-12 (Book 2), and beyond the first year (Book 3). Some people feel significantly better within a year, while others need more time. Healing isn’t linear, you’ll have good days and setbacks. The series supports you through the entire journey, however long it takes.
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